Dear Me (and all of YOU!), NOT. ANOTHER. MINUTE.

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheranostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index®), but the opinions and experiences shared are my own.

Dear Me (and all of YOU!),
NOT. ANOTHER. MINUTE.
Why wait?
By now we all know health = life.
Ask EVERY QUESTION.
Do not stop until you get answers you feel comfortable with.
I’ve asked my doctors.  I’m waiting for answers.
Have I had the Breast Cancer Index test?  Do they use it?  Will it change my treatment
plan?  
I. DIDN’T.  WAIT.
Once I knew the questions to ask. 
SO ASK THE QUESTIONS!
Love,
Denise

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The MOMS & LEDVANCE The Makers of SYLVANIA General Lighting hosted Rachel Platten to celebrate her book, You Belong.

Platten sang You Belong and The Fight Song during their online Mamarazzi and shared why her baby had a tantrum, thanked a mom for noticing her book is diverse and what that means to her.  Platten also shared how she probably doesn’t do enough in Hollywood and what she would tell her teenage self.   CLICK BELOW TO WATCH and hear who the light in her world is.  Plus available on Amazon, this exclusive LED portfolio offers the best natural light by mimicking the natural light spectrum to deliver clean  natural light.

I’m Still Learning New Questions To Ask Years After Cancer Treatment…

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheranostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index​®), but the opinions and experiences shared are my own

When you hear the words, “It’s Cancer”, life is never the same. Now, 4 1⁄2 years after my diagnosis, I’m one of the lucky ones. I’m alive. But treatment for me continues in other ways. Besides watching my diet, working out and living a healthy life, I still take a pill every day. The pill is supposed to help make sure the cancer doesn’t come back. It’s like insurance, a little white pill that I take every night before bed, for ten years. Now, 2 1⁄2 years after my in-hospital treatment ended, I’m still learning new questions to ask.

Everyone’s cancer is different. Everyone’s treatment plan is catered to their cancer, but also according to their doctors’ methods and beliefs. I was diagnosed with a kind of breast cancer that’s not the most common. In fact, I was told that my diagnosis and combination of invasive lobular and Her2+ was on the rare side. Her2+, from what I was told, means, in simple terms, if the cancer comes back, it can come back anywhere. Having that information was crucial to me because it helped me make the decision to just have a lumpectomy and continue with an aggressive treatment to tackle the cancer and any potential cells that escaped the area. When my chemotherapy, radiation and immunotherapy infusions were completed, I understood I would have to go on a medicine for ten years.

There are two categories of medicines for breast cancer patients after treatment. One is for pre-menopausal women while there’s another class for post-menopausal women. Though I was 43 and pre-menopausal, my doctor decided to put me into menopause and on a medicine for ten years. I asked a lot of questions about this and have always wondered if that was the right choice. I started to receive an extra shot to put me into menopause and came to the decision to have my ovaries removed.

I wrote about all of these decisions and the challenges and complications and emotions that came along with it on Good Housekeeping. ​But, for not another minute, will I not share how I think I can help others, while also learning more questions to possibly even help myself. Since I shared my story publicly, I have heard from people across the country sharing their journey and asking questions. I don’t know the answers, but to have others to bounce questions off of and share experiences with, could be the added bonus patients need – to learn more. To learn what to ask. To me, that’s the most important thing.

So when I was approached by the maker of Breast Cancer Index to help share their mission, I quickly jumped at the opportunity. I learned something I didn’t know. I learned something about my own treatment and new questions to ask. I have learned that by taking the test, you get a definitive answer (Intended Use and Limitations can be found at breastcancerindex.com). I have learned that by taking the test, it reduces the uncertainty around treating breast cancer with extended anti-estrogen therapy, just like the one I am on. I have learned that nearly 95% of women with hormone receptor positive (HR+), early-stage breast cancer do not benefit from anti-estrogen therapy after five years. 100% of women deserve to know what is right for them. I am one of those women. Now I’m learning more questions to ask.

Do I need the medicine that I am currently on for ten years? Is five years sufficient? I emailed my doctor this morning to ask if I had ever taken the test. Does she use Breast Cancer Index? Did my old doctor already test me? How do I not even know this? Is there a benefit to me going off the medicine? I can’t wait to learn and share more!

JoAnna Garcia Swisher Mamarazzi Online

The MOMS and Glade hosted JoAnna Garcia Swisher for an online #Mamarazzi to celebrate her Netflix show, Sweet Magnolias. Though her daughter broke her arm the morning of, Garcia showed up online early. Watch to see what she was wearing, to hear about her quarantine routine, what her husband thinks of her quarantine hygiene and how her cast supported her most during the shoot….

Denise’s Oprah Appearance

The MOMS Denise Albert and her blended family of exes joined Oprah on May 30th to talk about how they having been living together quarantined for almost three months. Oprah spoke to Denise about if she can leave and cone back, dating and what’s next. Denise is about 40 minutes into the show, Oprah, Your Life In Focus: A Vision Forward.

MEET Gillian Stollwerk Garrett from The MOMS Marketplace!

Hi, Call me Gilly and I am the Founder of Gilly’s Organics. I created a line of 9 luxurious, healing, hydrating products that are AMAZING for your skin and hair. I began this line because I wanted to develop high-quality, clean products that are effective AND affordable. I did it!

I believe deeply that a woman must absolutely put her self-care needs at the top of the list and especially now if she can. My brand and my mission are all about self-care, education, empowerment, having FUN and giving back. I hope when you buy my products that you feel the love that was put into them. Our brand is currently giving proceeds to our local hospital (Englewood Health) until this Covid crisis is over. We also give funds to girls who otherwise can’t receive a secondary education across the globe. I can’t wait to hear from you once you try my products! XO, G

CLICK HERE TO SHOP

Tammin Sursok Mamarazzi Online

The MOMS hosted a #MamarazziOnline Tammin Sursok (Pretty Little Liars) for her new film, Braking For Whales.  You will never believe how she and her husband, Sean McEwen , who she co-wrote the film with do their zooms these days!  Plus, you must watch to hear how her husband is as a kisser and how she shared that Melissa was one of his long lost childhood crushes and what they have in common 🙂

Happy Earth Day!

What is YOUR contribution to making the earth a better place?  The MOMS hosted a #MamarazziOnline with AppleTV+’s new short, #HereWeAre: Notes for Living on Planet Earth.  It’s available to stream now (and free for 7 days!).  Take a look at the Zoom event with Philip Hunt and Angela Edmonts, the Director, Writer, EP and Animation Producer for Studio AKA.  Watch to hear what they say about working with Meryl Streep, Apple and why this moment of pause is important.

How To Find the Happy When Living with Your Ex in Quarantine

Despite past differences, we are working together to create a family unit — and it’s working.

Today marks the beginning of our 5th week as a newfound family.  While I miss my older son who isn’t with us, my mom, my dad, and my entire family and friends, I’m grateful for the progress we have made in our unique living situation.  Can you imagine living with your ex-husband?  How about his wife, her ex-husband and kids?  It really is mind-blowing that we have been in this house together for a month (and still sane and surviving and mostly happy during these hard times!)

Read the Full Story on ThriveGlobal.com

Laura Prepon Mamarazzi. Motherhood, New Born and Quarantine

The MOMS hosted a #MamarazziOnline with Laura Prepon for her new book You and I As Mothers with over fifty moms. Moms joined from five countries to talk to Prepon about her book, her newborn, why she hadn’t shared his name yet and what she tells her daughter about why we are all wearing masks. The MOMS highlighted a nurse who is helping other families in NYC and the Child Mind Institute who is hosting live Facebook events everyday at 10 am and 4:30 om to answer your questions. Click to watch the event!

Bad Days Will Happen — But They Aren’t Forever

It is okay to not be okay all the time.

I had a breakdown today.  

It began with an email from a business associate threatening legal action because they haven’t been paid in full.  It continued with news of my dear friend losing her dad.  The thought of her giving birth to her first child and not having her life’s greatest support to share in the joy was too much for me.

Read the Full Story on ThriveGlobal.com

Josh Duhamel Messages The MOMS on Instagram and Joins Online Mamarazzi Event Next Day.

TRUE STORY.  The MOMS hosted Nora Dunn for their 1st #MamarazziOnline this past Tuesday for her new film, The Lost Husband. 

The MOMS tagged Josh on Instagram saying they missed him and he responded that “no one invited him” The next night, there he was, with over 50 moms and influencers from all over the country talking Quarantine, the film, how he’s doing with parenting and how his ex, Fergie is a great mom.  Here’s the full video from Mamarazzi Online! The film, The Lost Husband is now available on streaming services.  Thank you to all the Moms and Josh! Thank you also to the Child Mind Institute for their daily Facebook Live Q & A’s with therapists and social workers every day at 10am eastern and 4:30pm. We are proud to help to spread the word for all who would like help during these times!

How You Can Feel Lonely, Even When You Are Not Alone

Living in a house full of people can still feel isolated during a pandemic.

Can you imagine living in a house with your ex-husband? How about with his wife, her ex-husband and kids?  That’s been my life for the past 14 days.  We are grateful that we continue to be healthy while so many others are not.  We are also grateful to be here together, though it’s not easy.

Read the full story at ThriveGlobal.com

How My Blended Family Is Showing Up for Each other

When one gets divorced, you do what’s in the best interest of the children. Now, in this crazy corona time, four parents are doing just that. 

I keep saying everything is day by day.  Just days ago, I posted a pieceabout how my ex-husband and I had to make the difficult decision that one home is better than two. We decided for the health of everyone that my apartment would be kid corona quarantine for the foreseeable future.  Well, it is a new day and over the weekend, we hit the road to Quarantine together.

Read the full story at Thrive Global

What To Do For Corona Quarantines When You Are Divorced

How this family is coping with co-parenting during a pandemic. 

I’ve been divorced for eight years but today is the first day I feel like a single mom.  I wrote a piece in 2012 titled “Don’t Call Me A Single Mom” because my kids have a dad.  They have an involved, hard working, helpful and loving dad.  We agreed upon a schedule that works with plenty of nights and every other weekend at his apartment.  I have child support and a free babysitter when I travel for work or fun.  

Read the full story at Thrive Global

Dating in Isolation.

Finding connection in a time of self quarantining.

I’ve been on a self imposed quarantine about writing about my dating life.  I’ve told myself for years if I write about dating I become undateable.

It’s not easy to shut myself up.  I’ve written and shared so much about my life in the 10 years since the birth of my media and event company, The MOMS. 

Read the Full Story at Thrive Global

Minute with The MOMS and Joan Lunden

What does Joan Lunden see when she looks in the mirror?  Who is the best person she ever interviewed?  Watch The Minute With The MOMS with Joan Lunden!  PLUS, Do you want to win a free trip to Beaches Resorts?  Go to TheMOMSNetwork on Instagram and Facebook to more from our Mamarazzi event and to find out how you can enter.  We are celebrating Skip Gen Travel.  That’s where Grandparents take the Grandkids away and give moms a break or a vacation too! 

Solo Mom Travels, as seen on The Doctors on Feb. 17, 2020

Mom Beats Breast Cancer and Then Books Dream Trip, Thank You Flash Pack for the Croatia portion of the trip!

I took off work completely for the first time in over 10 years. I turned on my out of office, got my business partner on board to run our company, TheMOMS.com without me, and took off to Europe for three and a half weeks with a one-way ticket and very few plans or reservations. In the past seven years, I’ve gotten divorced, started a new business, moved three times, was diagnosed with breast cancer and treated aggressively for two and a half years, spent four and a half years in and out of a horrific (for lack of other words) on and off relationship, was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, and became the subject of a viral video for being mistreated with the TSA — all while parenting two boys.

Read the Full Story at Yahoo.com