Hugs with 98 Year Old Grandma

My 98 year old Grandma in assisted living hadn’t had a hug in over a year! Wait until you hear some of the conversations and special moments we all shared with my Grandma! It’s truly incredible and we are so grateful for the science that made this all happen! We hadn’t been inside with my mom without masks in over a year. Our recent trip to Ohio in this incredible Outdoorsy RV Van brought so much love and joy along with the most amazing conversations. #brighterdaysahead. CLICK HERE TO WATCH.

Ballet Above Lincoln Center!

One of the great loves of my life is Ballet. 
One of my biggest dreams came true! To not only produce a Ballet Performance, but to bring dance back to life, in person was a glorious undertaking. To produce at a time, for an audience who needed to be in the presence of live dance and for dancers who needed to dance, has changed me. It’s now a calling to produce more and to help dancers.  
On a recent Sunday, on a rooftop overlooking Lincoln Center, dancers spoke to the turmoil of the moment, with falls to the floor, deep contractions and imploring arms. It was emotional and beautiful. 
The Dancers of N.Y.C.B., a new organization developed to support members of The New York City Ballet during the pandemic, came together for a benefit performance at the Empire Hotel featuring choreography by former and current members. 


As a former dancer I couldn’t sit idle any longer. I had to find a way. I had to create something for the dancers, I had to help all these dancers.  I found a way. It was smaller. It was more intimate with performances every other hour.  It would work.  It did! The excitement was overwhelming. During my welcoming speech, I took off my mask for a brief moment to scream, “Yes!” People applauded louder than before.  It happened, all while abiding by all the CDC guidelines with everyone socially distanced.  Now what to produce next? There is the excitement for more. But for now we will have to continue to create and find a way to make things  “Figure-outable.”  

That is my word for 2020. 
Click the HERE to read more about the benefit performance. 

Please Help Non-White’s Survive Breast Cancer

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheronostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index™) but the opinions and experiences shared are my own.

I’m WHITE.

Just because of my color alone, I had a better chance of surviving breast cancer.

PLEASE.

TAKE.

THIS.

PLEDGE.

I DID.  

Breast Cancer Index officially took the Tiger Lily #InclusionPledge, which is focused on reducing the higher mortality rates for women of color. Women of color have a 40% higher mortality rate from breast cancer. They also are diagnosed at later stages. (Ref: https://www.tigerlilyfoundation.org/diversity-and-inclusion-pledge-for-women-of-color/)

For more information about the #InclusionPledge visit: https://www.tigerlilyfoundation.org/diversity-and-inclusion-pledge-for-women-of-color/

Mamarazzi Virtual Event with Melissa Joan Hart and Old El Paso

The Moms and Melissa Joan Hart invite you to get your Taco On with Old El Paso. We will get our Taco on Tuesday Night, September 8th at 8pm EST along with Melissa Joan Hart who will share more about her current projects and her favorite Taco Tuesday recipes!

We hope you will join The MOMS community, and be ready for a fun night in!

PLUS…5 Lucky Guests will receive Taco Meal Kits and some fun Old El Paso gifts! 

CLICK HERE TO JOIN, and please follow along #MamarazziEvent #OEPTACOon

Blended #TutuTuesday

Even my blended family of exes is joining me this year to raise awareness and money for breast cancer.   While we weren’t in a good place during my cancer journey, what matters now, after living together for over 5 months during the Pandemic, my ex-husband and his wife are now a part of the team. 

My mom and my boys are my constant source of love, support, inspiration and joy and nothing makes me and my boys happier than all coming together.  This year, I’m one of @komengreaternyc ambassadors for the #Race4theCure and #Journeyto30 celebrating 30 years of  #creatingmoresurvivors .  Though we will be racing #togetherapart this year, our blended family is now together forever.  What’s healthier than that?!
💗 I hope you can help me.  Every dollar counts and any small donation is greatly appreciated, especially this year.   Thanks so much for any amount you can do to support me and us. 🙏
💗 Please support HERE💗https://race.komennyc.org/denise-albert

What would you do? …if you were on medicine you may not need to be on for as long as planned?

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheranostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index®), but the opinions and experiences shared are my own.

What would you do? …if you were on medicine you may not need to be on for as long as planned?

Years after my Cancer Journey….still looking for answers that will determine my future.

What would you do?

…if you were on medicine you may not need to be on for as long as planned?

What would you do?

…with new information regarding your breast cancer treatment?

What will I do?

That is the question I keep asking myself.

What should I do?

That is a question I am starting to ask my doctors.

Here is what I’ve just learned:

Breast Cancer Index is a test for the exact kind of cancer I had . Breast Cancer Index may change my original plans.  I was supposed to be on anti-estrogen medicine for 10 years but now, I’m learning, I may be able to cut that in half.  Breast Cancer Index is revolutionizing anti-estrogen therapy decision-making and that’s why I’m learning and sharing.  Breast Cancer Index is a test to determine risk of recurrence and whether longer therapy is likely to benefit me.

Here is what I recently asked my doctor:

Question…do you know if I have had the Breast Cancer Index test?  Is that something you typically use? 

Here is how my doctor responded:

Breast Cancer Index is a test designed to assess the benefit of continuing anti-estrogen therapy beyond five years. 

When you get to the five year mark, we’ll assess whether you should continue based on many factors – how you are tolerating meds, your bones, most up to date research 

The most important result is that my doctor is informed.  I feel grateful that I was informed and knew the question to ask.  I have a few more months to go before I am a candidate for the test and evaluate.  Stay tuned!

https://www.breastcancerindex.com/already-on-estrogen-therapy

Poise® Partners with The MOMS to host Poise® Bounce Back Microgrants and Workshops

We are teaming up with Poise who is awarding microgrants totaling $50,000! Poise has already awarded $450,000 in grants in an effort to help women-owned small businesses bounce back from financial hardships due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Now we’re working with Poise to bring female entrepreneurs educational workshops and microgrants. 

Click on the links below to register for one of our virtual panel discussions in August and you could be eligible to receive a $2,500 microgrant thanks to Poise. Each session will feature a robust mix of speakers and topics designed to help female entrepreneurs adapt and grow their businesses during these fast-changing, unprecedented times. 

Week of August 3

Week of August 10

Dear Me (and all of YOU!), NOT. ANOTHER. MINUTE.

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheranostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index®), but the opinions and experiences shared are my own.

Dear Me (and all of YOU!),
NOT. ANOTHER. MINUTE.
Why wait?
By now we all know health = life.
Ask EVERY QUESTION.
Do not stop until you get answers you feel comfortable with.
I’ve asked my doctors.  I’m waiting for answers.
Have I had the Breast Cancer Index test?  Do they use it?  Will it change my treatment
plan?  
I. DIDN’T.  WAIT.
Once I knew the questions to ask. 
SO ASK THE QUESTIONS!
Love,
Denise

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I’m Still Learning New Questions To Ask Years After Cancer Treatment…

Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by Biotheranostics, Inc. (Breast Cancer Index​®), but the opinions and experiences shared are my own

When you hear the words, “It’s Cancer”, life is never the same. Now, 4 1⁄2 years after my diagnosis, I’m one of the lucky ones. I’m alive. But treatment for me continues in other ways. Besides watching my diet, working out and living a healthy life, I still take a pill every day. The pill is supposed to help make sure the cancer doesn’t come back. It’s like insurance, a little white pill that I take every night before bed, for ten years. Now, 2 1⁄2 years after my in-hospital treatment ended, I’m still learning new questions to ask.

Everyone’s cancer is different. Everyone’s treatment plan is catered to their cancer, but also according to their doctors’ methods and beliefs. I was diagnosed with a kind of breast cancer that’s not the most common. In fact, I was told that my diagnosis and combination of invasive lobular and Her2+ was on the rare side. Her2+, from what I was told, means, in simple terms, if the cancer comes back, it can come back anywhere. Having that information was crucial to me because it helped me make the decision to just have a lumpectomy and continue with an aggressive treatment to tackle the cancer and any potential cells that escaped the area. When my chemotherapy, radiation and immunotherapy infusions were completed, I understood I would have to go on a medicine for ten years.

There are two categories of medicines for breast cancer patients after treatment. One is for pre-menopausal women while there’s another class for post-menopausal women. Though I was 43 and pre-menopausal, my doctor decided to put me into menopause and on a medicine for ten years. I asked a lot of questions about this and have always wondered if that was the right choice. I started to receive an extra shot to put me into menopause and came to the decision to have my ovaries removed.

I wrote about all of these decisions and the challenges and complications and emotions that came along with it on Good Housekeeping. ​But, for not another minute, will I not share how I think I can help others, while also learning more questions to possibly even help myself. Since I shared my story publicly, I have heard from people across the country sharing their journey and asking questions. I don’t know the answers, but to have others to bounce questions off of and share experiences with, could be the added bonus patients need – to learn more. To learn what to ask. To me, that’s the most important thing.

So when I was approached by the maker of Breast Cancer Index to help share their mission, I quickly jumped at the opportunity. I learned something I didn’t know. I learned something about my own treatment and new questions to ask. I have learned that by taking the test, you get a definitive answer (Intended Use and Limitations can be found at breastcancerindex.com). I have learned that by taking the test, it reduces the uncertainty around treating breast cancer with extended anti-estrogen therapy, just like the one I am on. I have learned that nearly 95% of women with hormone receptor positive (HR+), early-stage breast cancer do not benefit from anti-estrogen therapy after five years. 100% of women deserve to know what is right for them. I am one of those women. Now I’m learning more questions to ask.

Do I need the medicine that I am currently on for ten years? Is five years sufficient? I emailed my doctor this morning to ask if I had ever taken the test. Does she use Breast Cancer Index? Did my old doctor already test me? How do I not even know this? Is there a benefit to me going off the medicine? I can’t wait to learn and share more!

Denise’s Oprah Appearance

The MOMS Denise Albert and her blended family of exes joined Oprah on May 30th to talk about how they having been living together quarantined for almost three months. Oprah spoke to Denise about if she can leave and cone back, dating and what’s next. Denise is about 40 minutes into the show, Oprah, Your Life In Focus: A Vision Forward.

How To Find the Happy When Living with Your Ex in Quarantine

Despite past differences, we are working together to create a family unit — and it’s working.

Today marks the beginning of our 5th week as a newfound family.  While I miss my older son who isn’t with us, my mom, my dad, and my entire family and friends, I’m grateful for the progress we have made in our unique living situation.  Can you imagine living with your ex-husband?  How about his wife, her ex-husband and kids?  It really is mind-blowing that we have been in this house together for a month (and still sane and surviving and mostly happy during these hard times!)

Read the Full Story on ThriveGlobal.com

Bad Days Will Happen — But They Aren’t Forever

It is okay to not be okay all the time.

I had a breakdown today.  

It began with an email from a business associate threatening legal action because they haven’t been paid in full.  It continued with news of my dear friend losing her dad.  The thought of her giving birth to her first child and not having her life’s greatest support to share in the joy was too much for me.

Read the Full Story on ThriveGlobal.com

How You Can Feel Lonely, Even When You Are Not Alone

Living in a house full of people can still feel isolated during a pandemic.

Can you imagine living in a house with your ex-husband? How about with his wife, her ex-husband and kids?  That’s been my life for the past 14 days.  We are grateful that we continue to be healthy while so many others are not.  We are also grateful to be here together, though it’s not easy.

Read the full story at ThriveGlobal.com

How My Blended Family Is Showing Up for Each other

When one gets divorced, you do what’s in the best interest of the children. Now, in this crazy corona time, four parents are doing just that. 

I keep saying everything is day by day.  Just days ago, I posted a pieceabout how my ex-husband and I had to make the difficult decision that one home is better than two. We decided for the health of everyone that my apartment would be kid corona quarantine for the foreseeable future.  Well, it is a new day and over the weekend, we hit the road to Quarantine together.

Read the full story at Thrive Global

What To Do For Corona Quarantines When You Are Divorced

How this family is coping with co-parenting during a pandemic. 

I’ve been divorced for eight years but today is the first day I feel like a single mom.  I wrote a piece in 2012 titled “Don’t Call Me A Single Mom” because my kids have a dad.  They have an involved, hard working, helpful and loving dad.  We agreed upon a schedule that works with plenty of nights and every other weekend at his apartment.  I have child support and a free babysitter when I travel for work or fun.  

Read the full story at Thrive Global

Dating in Isolation.

Finding connection in a time of self quarantining.

I’ve been on a self imposed quarantine about writing about my dating life.  I’ve told myself for years if I write about dating I become undateable.

It’s not easy to shut myself up.  I’ve written and shared so much about my life in the 10 years since the birth of my media and event company, The MOMS. 

Read the Full Story at Thrive Global