The MOMS Denise Albert and her blended family of exes joined Oprah on May 30th to talk about how they having been living together quarantined for almost three months. Oprah spoke to Denise about if she can leave and cone back, dating and what’s next. Denise is about 40 minutes into the show, Oprah, Your Life In Focus: A Vision Forward.
Despite past differences, we are working together to create a family unit — and it’s working.
Today marks the beginning of our 5th week as a newfound family. While I miss my older son who isn’t with us, my mom, my dad, and my entire family and friends, I’m grateful for the progress we have made in our unique living situation. Can you imagine living with your ex-husband? How about his wife, her ex-husband and kids? It really is mind-blowing that we have been in this house together for a month (and still sane and surviving and mostly happy during these hard times!)
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It is okay to not be okay all the time.
I had a breakdown today.
It began with an email from a business associate threatening legal action because they haven’t been paid in full. It continued with news of my dear friend losing her dad. The thought of her giving birth to her first child and not having her life’s greatest support to share in the joy was too much for me.
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Living in a house full of people can still feel isolated during a pandemic.
Can you imagine living in a house with your ex-husband? How about with his wife, her ex-husband and kids? That’s been my life for the past 14 days. We are grateful that we continue to be healthy while so many others are not. We are also grateful to be here together, though it’s not easy.
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When one gets divorced, you do what’s in the best interest of the children. Now, in this crazy corona time, four parents are doing just that.
I keep saying everything is day by day. Just days ago, I posted a pieceabout how my ex-husband and I had to make the difficult decision that one home is better than two. We decided for the health of everyone that my apartment would be kid corona quarantine for the foreseeable future. Well, it is a new day and over the weekend, we hit the road to Quarantine together.
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How this family is coping with co-parenting during a pandemic.
I’ve been divorced for eight years but today is the first day I feel like a single mom. I wrote a piece in 2012 titled “Don’t Call Me A Single Mom” because my kids have a dad. They have an involved, hard working, helpful and loving dad. We agreed upon a schedule that works with plenty of nights and every other weekend at his apartment. I have child support and a free babysitter when I travel for work or fun.
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Finding connection in a time of self quarantining.
I’ve been on a self imposed quarantine about writing about my dating life. I’ve told myself for years if I write about dating I become undateable.
It’s not easy to shut myself up. I’ve written and shared so much about my life in the 10 years since the birth of my media and event company, The MOMS.
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This post was made in partnership with Poise®. All opinions my own.
Once upon a time, I was a young dancer. My life was all about ballet; all day, everyday. I started dancing when I was four years old and took this love and passion into my university years. I received a scholarship to college because of ballet, and I am the person that I am today because of ballet.
I never really wanted to do anything else with my life. I wanted to be a prima ballerina and dance on stage. But one day in my early 20’s, I realized that it wasn’t going to happen. There were physical obstacles that I just couldn’t plow through. I had horrible hips that would not allow me to turn out completely and feet that just couldn’t arch properly or place me on pointe in the perfect position that was needed. So I pivoted. After college I became a journalist and covered breaking news stories. When I became a mother years later, I took my love of journalism and developed that into a media company that I operate today.
I did a cold, hard stop with ballet over 20 years ago. It was painful to leave my greatest love behind. But because of my 10-year-old daughter, I’ve found myself back at the barre. She dances five to six days a week with The School of American Ballet here in New York City, and is becoming quite the little ballerina. It is with her passion and dedication for ballet that I have now found myself having a dance re-birth.
My children have always known about my ballet background and my love for dance. They’ve seen me dancing around our house just about anytime I can. But seeing my daughter in class inspired me to take ballet classes all over again. And I’ve been able to do so with success and ease thanks to Poise®.
I suffered from LBL (light bladder leakage) after my third baby arrived. However, I wasn’t going to let one more thing keep me from enjoying ballet again. Poise® Impressa® goes in just like a tampon and stops light bladder leaks from happening. Its allowed me to live my life the way I want to. I can jump and dance without fear of leaks or urgent bathroom breaks. From now on, my children know once the music’s turned on, a dance party’s about to happen, all thanks to Poise® Impressa®. Check it out for yourself now by shopping on Amazon or visiting Poise.com.
Now I never have to worry while dancing with my kids in the kitchen or while practicing my grand jetés at the studio. I’m my best, youthful self, everyday. When I look at myself in the mirror during ballet class, I feel like the young girl I used to be, once upon a time.
Our children received complementary Invisalign treatment as part of our sponsored partnership with
Align Technology, Inc, the makers of the Invisalign brand. All opinions and thoughts expressed in the post below are our own.
We’re now little ways into 2019 and it’s a nice time to reflect on what was good about the previous year and what’s already going well for 2019. One thing that has been consistently wonderful has been our families’ InvisalignÆ treatment experiences. The transformation has been incredible and the process of fixing their little teen smiles is happening so quickly! We can truly see the changes taking shape right before our eyes, setting our kids up for an easier dental experience for the rest of their lives, or we hope – for those that haven’t had much luck and you’ve noticed your oral health decline as you age, you might want to look into dental coverage plans for seniors like these compared over at Let’s Say Thanks. Here is a bit more insight into each of the journeys our children have gone through with Invisalign clear aligners.
What a great experience we are having with our InvisalignÆ treatment. We can see a HUGE difference in my daughter’s smile! What an easy process invisalign treatment has been and continues to be for my kids.
The great thing about having Invisalign clear aligners is that it doesn’t interrupt their lives, and you have a highly trained professional orthodontist working with you every step of the way. So regardless of whether you decide to visit a Dentist in Temple Terrace, in New York or a dental clinic closer to home, if starting Invisalign treatment is something you are looking to do, be sure to speak to a professional dentist who will be able to give you all the advice you’ll need. And since they’re virtually invisible, it doesn’t get in the way of their performance schedules or stage confidence. My youngest Sydney Rose performed all 25 shows of The Nutcracker this past December without one issue and with big smiles every time. The beauty of Invisalign treatment is that it doesn’t get in the way of all her performing and dance classes. My kids receive several aligners in advance and change them up weekly*. We aren’t running back and forth to the orthodontist for broken brackets or wires popping out. It makes everything so much easier. Finding a professional dentist who can perform treatment for Invisalign could be as simple as doing a google search into orthodontist lincoln ne (location varies). Speaking to a dentist about how this process works will help people make a decision on whether this is the right step for them to take when it comes to improving their smile.
We have seen major transformations in my daughters smiles in such a short time and we also have had the peace of mind that my girls can eat whatever they want because the aligners are removable. That is the best news since they both love popcorn and candy. They simply take them out, brush and floss and pop the aligners right back in.
In one short year, we have seen so many changes. One daughter had some spacing issues while my other daughter had more complex issues and Invisalign treatment is working well for both of them! I too have Invisalign treatment and my smile began to shift so quickly. I never loved my smile until now.
I was worried when I went to our orthodontist appointment recently because I had to cancel the previous one and reschedule. You know how life is as a busy mom. But, because my boys are so responsible with their aligners and their Invisalign treatment it all worked out. In fact, they may even finish early because they have not only worn their aligners and been compliant with their treatment, but they actually enjoyed it. My older son’s overbite is now gone, and his teeth are nearly perfect. My younger son’s crowded, crooked mouth is now a big smiling success.
They were able to do this all while continuing their daily lives. All while carrying their case in their backpack and even keeping one in their lunch boxes. They wore them all summer while away at camp without any issues. They wore them during their basketball and baseball games without worrying about broken wires or brackets. I can’t believe the amount of change in such a short time, not only with their smiles but with their sense of responsibility.
If you’re working through what the best orthodontic treatment options are for your teens, it is in your best interest to check out www.invisalign.com to learn more about the process, what other parents like us are experiencing with our teens, and to find a trained orthodontist or dentist in your local area. Your kids’ smile will thank you!
*Invisalign clear aligners may provide up to 50% shorter treatment time with weekly aligner changes, compared with two-week aligner wear. Weekly aligner changes are recommended for all Invisalign treatments (with default staging protocol) for Invisalign Full, Invisalign Teen, Invisalign Lite, Invisalign Assist and Invisalign Go products. The decision to prescribe weekly aligner changes is at the doctor’s discretion. Monitor tooth movements such as rotations, extrusions, and significant root movements; particularly blue and black movements in the Tooth Movement Assessment (TMA). Depending on the patient response to treatment, particularly mature adults, consider longer periods between aligner changes.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
It’s the most stressful time of the year!
We are weeks away, are you ready?
Hosting Thanksgiving can be overwhelming and stressful and beautiful all at the same time, so it’s important to stay calm and prep ahead. There are so many things you can do in advance to make life easier, like decorations, cleaning out the fridge, and even cooking ahead.
My day doesn’t usually start until I’ve had that first cup of coffee. My Keurig brewer has been a lifesaver, especially on busy days like Thanksgiving. I never used to drink coffee however after trying a coffee at my friend’s house a few months ago, I decided I wanted to buy a coffee machine. She told me she spent a while reading reviews on websites like https://greatcoffeebrewers.com/keurig-k-select-single-serve/ before she bought a machine for herself. Coffee machines can be expensive so doing your research before buying one can be really useful. So before I get started, I enjoy a little me time and use my Keurig K-Latte Single Serve Coffee and Latte Maker to brew a fresh cup.
Then, it’s off to the races as I dive into meal prep, decor and making room in the fridge.
Before you know it, everyone has arrived and we’ve all enjoyed a delicious meal together. From there, it’s time for dessert and no dessert is complete without coffee for all, especially on Thanksgiving.
I also like to set up a dessert and coffee station with everything my guests need, including the Keurig K-Latte coffeehouse brewer. A lot of specialty coffeemakers can be complicated, time-consuming and messy, but the Keurig K-Latte Coffeehouse Brewer is simple to use. Everyone of my guests can enjoy exactly what they want, from a fresh cup of coffee to a creamy latte made from any K-Cup pod in just minutes and all from the same brewer!
Then we all find ourselves in my living room on the couch, stuffed and happy.
The Keurig K-Latte Coffeehouse Brewer is available exclusively at Walmart for only $99.
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Every year one of our summer travel traditions is that we head up to Canada and every year it is a long drive.
Sometimes we can do the drive in less than 10 hours, but with 3 kids and several different bladder schedules (most moms know what I am talking about here) and various appetites, we often make a lot of stops. I had considered just shipping our car out to where we need it and just getting a flight out there. I even googled something like ‘Cars Arrive Auto Relocation‘ and I was tempted to do it, but then I realized that this long car drive is now a family tradition. So even though it’s long and sometimes uncomfortable, I love it.
One of the cool things we do at The MOMS is we get the opportunity to try new products and sometimes test out new cars and we are currently on the hunt for a new vehicle now. We definitely need a 3rd row SUV with 3 kids in this family and safety comes first.
We got to test-drive the new Ford Expedition on the way up to Canada. The vehicle was by far the most comfortable for a family of 5. Everyone had their own space and enough room to really spread out. Equipped with driver-assist technology such as Pre-Collision Assist with pedestrian detection, Blind Spot Information System with cross-traffic alert, and lane-keeping assist, I felt safer and more confident on the road than ever before. It is unlucky that most cars don’t have these perks, as it could potentially prevent accidents from occurring, and people having to reach out to a car accident attorney in illinois to get assistance because someone has been hurt, or cars have been damaged. However, I am very happy this car had these specifications for this long trip as they were needed!
Our first stop into Canada was Toronto. We spent time with my husband’s family before heading further North to “cottage country” which was another 3-hour drive. This has become a family tradition of ours where every summer we drive up to Toronto first and then to Lake Muskoka to spend time with more Canadian family.
Lake Muskoka has become a very special place for us, where we can really relax and where we are really away from everything. We kayak, canoe, go boating, make s’mores and sleep. Which reminds me, one of our friends recently showed us this kayak review website: Bestkayaks.reviews/top-rated-inflatable. Be sure to check it out if you are on the lookout for a new kayak of your own! It is really peaceful compared to action packed New York City where we live. The drive to Lake Muskoka has some very windy long dirt roads and the Expedition was so safe and again super comfortable for all the back bumpy roads.
After Muskoka, we then head to Haliburton, which is a tiny town near my son’s sleep away camp. We actually pull directly into his camp and drop him off. That is the hardest moment of our trip for me. I know he has the best time. I know the independence is good for them. I know being in the wilderness and camping is his favorite, but when he leaves, it is like a stinger to my heart. It is hard to watch your kids grow up and become so independent. You want this for them and you don’t, all at the same time.
Following the Haliburton camp drop off we then adventured into Algonquin Park in our Expedition. The park is famous for its wildlife and home to a large population of moose and bears, so if you are planning on camping here you may want to buy the best bear spray and research the local advice on how to not attract bears to your camp. My son actually canoed through the park with his camp this summer, which is his favorite activity of all.
We then drove back to New York City and did the drive straight without overnighting. I sat in the back with my youngest daughter and we watched a movie together. That is another bonus to The Expedition; you actually want to sit in the back with your kids because it is so comfortable! I am not saying I want to do this on all car rides, but for the right vehicle and of course the right movie, anything is possible.
Some members of our families received complimentary Invisalign® treatment but we really love it and all of the opinions below are our own.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! It may only be August, but for moms and dads and families, this is the real-time to celebrate the New Year. Some of us might still be in the midst of summer mode, but we are winding down and beginning to prepare for the new school year.
We are starting to plan our kids after school activities. We are starting to get emails and mail from the school. We are starting to connect again with the local moms who we may not have seen with all of our busy summer schedules. We are gearing up for carpools and back to school shopping.
The Family New Year is also the best time for Family New Rules. With my boys away at camp this summer, I have thought about things that have been working and things that haven’t. As a mom who doesn’t cook, I realized, one of the biggest fights with my boys is about food. What to have for a snack, what to have for dinner. Well now, I’ve hung a sign on the refrigerator, in preparation for the new school year, that lists each day and what dinner will be served, so they know in advance. ??I have always been organized with our daily schedules, sending an email out every week to their dad, my mom, and our sitter with all of the activities and who is dropping off and picking up. I have always had a central dry/ erase calendar in the kitchen that is color-coordinated for each child and, because we are divorced, for each parent as well. Now is the time to add more organization with the daily dinner list, and other new rules. We will have a family meeting to sit and go through our Family New Year. We also will tackle technology rules and homework rules.
It’s also the best time to celebrate how responsible they have been with their ®Invisalign® treatment. They both have new, improved smiles and are proud to show them off. Who knew that visiting someone like a Dentist in Middletown, for example, could have made that much difference to a person’s confidence? They have been so great taking charge of their treatment: remembering to wear the clear aligners for 20-22 hours a day, changing them weekly (since treatment times are now up to two times faster with weekly aligner changes), keeping their cases with them and brushing their teeth after each meal before putting the aligners back in. The process of getting Invisalign is generally not as long as getting braces is (if you’re consistent). It could be as simple as visiting a Phoenix Invisalign dental clinic, for example, and speaking to a professional who can provide the best advice on moving forward with this treatment. So that makes me think that they can handle more responsibilities. I can’t wait to sit with them to decide what to add to their New Year list!
Back to School means back to the juggle. Back to school can feel so overwhelming for so many mothers. It’s important to ease into all the routines instead of making that switch the night before and expecting all the kids to just go to bed at a new hour. You do have to start planning everything earlier so you don’t feel maniacal when it happens and so the kids don’t feel lethargic and confused.
Planning schedules early is crucial and making those appointments now will make life easier. For our household, our kids are going to have Back to School orthodontist appointments before school starts. We are doing an exciting giveaway that you can all enter here to win an Invisalign treatment. The winner will be selected at the end of the year, just in time for a holiday gift! With Invisalign treatment, we won’t have to worry about scheduling many of these visits because they get all their clear aligners in advance for weekly changes, and this saves us all so much time. We also aren’t back and forth to the orthodontist due to broken brackets or wires, either. So, at the top of our to-do list is our Invisalign appointment at our dentist that is pretty similar to our friend’s Dentist in Seattle. The other big one on our to do list is back to school shopping. In the past we have always waited because we are in denial about school starting and we end up at the store with so many supplies sold out. This year we won’t live in denial and we will plan ahead. Another big to do for our family is all the school lunches and meal planning. My big goal this year is to have at least 3 home cooked meals planned each week and where we can all sit down together as a family. A mom can dream right?!
Don’t look now, but summer is winding down, and kids around the country are getting ready to go back to school. After a summer of lazy beach days, it can be tough to shift gears into school mode. Recently, Melissa, teamed with YourUpdateTV to provide some helpful tips on navigating the stressful back to school season.
Perk Up The Morning:
Going from summer mode to back-to-school is not always an easy transition to make. With super-early wakeups, busy mornings, and packed after-school activity schedules, it’s important to take moments to unwind. A cup of fresh coffee in the morning or an afternoon latte can go a long way in this regard.
The new Keurig® K-Latte™ Single Serve Coffee & Latte Maker allows coffee lovers to enjoy regular, single serve coffee or creamy lattes in the comfort of their own home using any single cup coffee pod including any K-Cup® pod. This is the perfect time-saving and cost effective addition to any back to school routine. Why drive 3 miles when you can enjoy a latte and coffee for under a dollar and in less than 3 minutes? While most specialty coffeemakers can be complicated, time-consuming and messy, the Keurig® K-Latte™ Single Serve Coffee & Latte Maker is simple to use, allowing you to prepare coffee or lattes in minutes. Brew. Froth. Enjoy. This coffeehouse brewer is available exclusively at Walmart.com and in Walmart stores for $99.00.
Creating a ‘Cool’ Environment:
For moms, it’s very important to make sure they are doing everything they can to help their kids, and that starts with the temperature. The first weeks of school can still be really hot! So, when my kids come home, I want to make sure they have a cool, study-friendly environment for them to stay focused. Research has shown that hot temperatures can really impact learning, decreasing both interest and alertness for children.
Maintaining your family’s comfort as they transition back into school mode is essential. LG just released a new line of smart window air conditioners that deliver advanced cooling and an unprecedented increase in energy efficiency of 40 percent on its best-performing model. LG is the first to use an innovative DUAL Inverter Compressor™, which allows the units to constantly adjust speed precisely to maintain desired temperature levels – unlike typical units that turn on full force and then off to reach the desired temperature, and waste energy in the process. Not only will these the units save energy and you money on your energy bills, they are ultra-quiet – just 44 decibels – which is perfect for when kids need to study – and offer smart connectivity which allows you to adjust temperatures, fan speed, and power, all from your smartphone – no matter where you are, using the LG SmartThinQ app, Amazon Alexa or the Google Assistant. For busy moms, this is a lifesaver. It’s not just a lifesaver, but it’s also a money-saver as well. Everyone who has a house will be able to tell you that your energy bills can vary considerably. Most of the time you don’t even bat an eyelid at them, but then you get one and you’re just like how did that become so expensive? Now though, it’s a lot easier to keep your eye on things and make sure that you don’t get left with an expensive energy bill at the end of the month. I remember I once got one energy bill that surprised me, as the amount was a lot more then I was expecting. It surprised me so much that I spent that evening looking up different energy providers like Startex Power, just to see if that would help me. But I realized that my biggest problem was just that I hadn’t been paying attention and that I just needed to be more careful when it came to using electrical things.
Making Time Amidst Busy Schedules:
With school around the corner, parents are thinking about their summer to-do lists. Orthodontic treatments are usually at the top of the list, as parents look to take advantage of the last bit of time off for scheduling appointments.
Invisalign clear aligners take the hassle right out of the process. Do you live in New Jersey? If so, you can get Invisalign aligners fitted at a Dentist in Little Falls. They are the most technically advanced clear aligner system in the world and can fix simple to complex cases for teens. They are removable so kids can still eat and drink whatever they want – simply brush and put back in. With Invisalign clear aligners, treatments are now up to 2 times faster with weekly aligner changes as opposed to two-week wear (at the discretion of the provider). To learn more and find a provider in your area, visit www.invisalign.com.
Last Days of Summer Mean Last Minute Trips:
Taking advantage of the last days of summer to get away with the whole family before school starts can help ease the pain of adjusting to the daily rigors of the school year. The good news is that the end of summer is a great time to save on last-minute trip ideas.
Megabus.com is a terrific low-cost bus service – with fares as low as $1 – that can take the whole family from city-center to city-center, on an awesome and comfortable double decker bus. Thanks to onboard technology like the megabus Ride App, free WiFi, and power outlets at each seat, the entire family can relax and enjoy the ride. It’s a great alternative to cramped and crowded family car rides OR overpriced airline tickets. Megabus.com serves more than 100 major cities across the U.S., so before you start planning that last-minute trip, make sure you check it out!
For years, we have been hearing about Rocking Horse Ranch and for years we have wanted to visit. We finally found the perfect weekend to head up, which was this past Father’s Day. This wasn’t all that we had given him for this special day. Before we set off, the kids gave their father a custom photo wallet that had a family photo on the front. I thought this was very thoughtful and something that we know he’ll use. Anyway, back to the trip itself. This family of 5 with a 16 year old, 13 year old and a 9 year old, need space for our road trips. We were thrilled when we had the opportunity to test drive the new Chevrolet Equinox, which made our ride extra comfortable and allowed me to relax too.
When we arrived at the ranch, we were welcomed by an outdoor barbeque with a country western band. Immediately, we felt like we were in the wild wild west with the sounds and smells of this gorgeous ranch. After lunch, we toured the property and the kids didn’t’ know where to start first.
We kicked off our activities with a dip in the pool, followed by a banana boat ride on their lake and then a mini golf game. After drying off, it was our turn to saddle up and take in a trail ride. We have a horse back rider in our house, so this was her turn to shine. She got right on her horse as if she just rode yesterday (even though it had been months). She asked for more time, so we were lucky enough to schedule a quick private lesson.
After the Horseback riding, we were back in the outdoor pool which was then followed by bungee jumping and then the indoor pool which was like a water park with obstacle courses and splash areas. Bungee jumping was an experience in itself. Although this was something I wanted to tick off my bucket list, I was still so nervous. It is the idea that anything could happen while you are up there. It is understandable as to why sites like https://www.moneyexpert.com/life-insurance/ advise you to take up life insurance for high risk activities, in case anything was to happen. It sounds scary, but this is definitely necessary. You just never know, so it is better to be safe than sorry and know that you did all you could to protect yourself and even your family. This year round resort also offers wintertime fun and activities that include snow tubing, skiing, sledding, skating and I hear the best hot chocolate around.
Then came time for our Fathers Day dinner set in a gorgeous western décor dining room. Our Fathers Day dinner turned into a date night for us as the kids ate in record time and left us alone to take on the arcade. To be honest, we didn’t mind the alone time. During this meal, I was finally able to present my husband with the gift of attending the Cotswold Gin Pantry. As we are already planning on a trip to the UK soon, I thought I might as well add this to the to-do list. I’m so happy that he loves the gift. I knew he would anyway.
After the busiest day ever, we headed back into our Chevy Equinox and drove back to Manhattan. The vehicle is quite impressive with the warning seat vibrations. When you don’t drive often, these extra safety features are an added comfort when driving around a family. Of course the kids loved the Apple Car Play and 4G LTE Wifi, and what Mom does not love that for a long car ride!
We rocked our Fathers Day weekend at Rocking Horse Ranch thanks to Chevrolet and everyone at the ranch. Maybe this will be our new Fathers day tradition, if not, we are more than happy to take on another adventure soon with the Chevrolet Equinox.
Denise Albert is co-founder of The MOMS media company. She is a cancer survivor and the mom of two boys, Jaron, 13, and Jaylan, 10. She speaks and moderates panels at many breast cancer-related events and was the recipient of the 2017 Susan G. Komen NY Impact Award. She lives in New York City.
I am a survivor every day. I remind myself that every day. I may be cancer free, but the diagnosis and continuing medications and decisions are forever.
I began my cancer journey in January of 2015. I was finally happy. I was a happily divorced mom of 2 boys, happy with my boyfriend and building my business, when I felt a lump and was diagnosed with breast cancer just 3 months after a clear mammography.
I had a lumpectomy, aggressive chemotherapy for six months, radiation daily for six weeks and immunotherapy infusions for a year. When my treatment ended a year ago, I called it #MyBreastYear (though it was 2 years of treatment).
Just like there’s no parenting manual, there’s no cancer manual. Everyone’s journey is different. For me … I tried to live my life. I threw parties and planned trips with my kids for the end of each phase to have something to look forward to.
Sharing my story helped me each day, and speaking to my new cancer-community friends across the country each day gave me more inspiration to keep sharing and hopefully helping others.
I hosted one of our Mamarazzi events with Jennifer Garner just an hour after shaving my head. I went to a Bruce Springsteen concert the night before chemo began. Some days, walking my kids to school was all I could do. I lost my taste and had no appetite, lost 10 lbs., lost all my hair everywhere. I couldn’t look in the mirror – with no hair, no eyebrows, no eyelashes it was impossible to think I would ever look healthy again.
On my first business trip to California after chemo ended, I was mistreated by the TSA – you may have seen the video. I then volunteered my time to shoot a public service video to make sure every one knows the best way to travel with cancer and to remind their agents of protocol.
My hair is now growing back, though I prefer the wigs (no hair drama ever!). I have gained the weight back and I’m finally back to a normal lifestyle.
I was recently diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis and have also been living with rashes all over my body for the past two years. When I was diagnosed, I did a lot of research into rheumatoid arthritis and found that it can potentially cause pain, swelling, and stiffness in the joints, (something that I wasn’t looking forward to). I don’t think I could live with any more pain, and that is when my friend told me that I should have a look into something similar to these CBD oil UK brands and products to see if I can find a form of pain relief that could help me battle with this new diagnosis, as well as dealing with my cancer. Apparently the treatment may have triggered something in my body and I’m now basically allergic to everything.
I have scheduled surgery three times in the past nine months. I have cancelled it each time. The surgery is called a salpingo-oophorectomy. It’s an elective surgery to remove the ovaries and fallopian tubes. I asked my oncologist why some women decide to do this surgery. His answer was so simple. “Well, for women similar to you … if you keep thinking and worrying about the cancer recurring there.”
I keep thinking about it although I have no evidence of cancer. The doctors don’t really believe I’m at increased risk for ovarian cancer but can’t say for sure. Because of the kind of breast cancer I had, I am on medicine for ten years and also get a shot every three months (also for ten years) to shut my ovaries down. I get another shot to strengthen my bones since estrogen is needed for that too.
The estrogen the ovaries make is what feeds my cancer, but not having the estrogen puts me at risk for other things like osteoporosis, mood swings, anxiety, depression, change in sex drive and possibly pain during sex.
I met with the gynocology oncologist surgeon last summer. After I asked him a million questions, he said it was a reasonable and good choice. I scheduled the surgery. Then cancelled it. I sent an email and asked my oncologist about it again. I scheduled the surgery again. I cancelled it. I then set up another meeting with the surgeon. I probably asked him the same questions. I scheduled it.
I don’t think my decision or emotions about this surgery has anything to do with the fact that now I really won’t be able to have kids anymore. It sounds so final but I don’t think that’s an issue for me. It’s more about my life now. I’m finally on a good run. But after further questioning and research I learned that ovarian cancer is hard to detect. It’s often caught too late.
Now I’m really beginning to think I should follow through with the surgery. Maybe I learn to live without my ovaries the way I’ve learned to live without my hair and with my wig. Newer, easier, better. And just keep living. Positively. Why would I keep my ovaries and tubes?
Maybe the surgery is just the next step in this journey.
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Are you a mindful parent? I think as a parent we all try to be mindful. But I bet you didn’t know that meditation can actually make you parent better.
I recently attended a beautiful luncheon hosted by Momtrends and learned that parents who practice meditation are more responsive to their children. A mindful parent can actually help a child learn to manage their behaviors and how they respond to you and also in the classroom. But it’s not just mindful parenting that attracted me to Headspace. It’s the lack of peace I have in my life.
My headspace has actually reached maximum capacity. Recently, I feel like I am on the edge of breaking down because of the amount of overload and the stress that happens to me as a working parent and especially during the end of the school year. You would think that we are all winding down but I feel more overwhelmed than ever.
Yes, I exercise almost daily which is a great release and I try to take time for myself but to be honest those things don’t solve the underlying problem. How do I become less stressed daily and how do I find the peace in my everyday life?
With Headspace I discovered that I will be on a new journey. A journey that can hopefully help with my stress, happiness, work, parenting and so much more. The App allows you to try several levels of meditation and allows you to discover so many things about yourself you may not have even known. The App also has sessions for students. This is so helpful for all those stressed out teens who might be taking final exams right now.
Do you feel overwhelmed? Is your Headspace at maximum capacity? If so, I have a special gift for you.
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I know I am not alone here when it comes to feeling overwhelmed as a Mom. I am hoping the Headspace App can be my start to managing some of the stress in my life and hopefully this App can be helpful for you too.
Let’s all try to find some Headspace.
This is a Sponsored Post, all opinions are my own.